Friday, May 04, 2007 ♠
♥ 2:10:00 AM
We were asked to talk about our views on cohabition for one of our IS module.
Here's my personal view.
I am for cohabitation on the basis that there must not be any children and not cohabiting for more than 3 years. Reason for this is because I feel that prior to marriage, one must get to know the other party well. Knowing the other party well does not mean knowing all his or her likes and dislikes but also to know how the individual behaves at home.
Both marriage and divorce are en expensive affair and I believe that lots of consideration has to be put in for your life long partner. You got to be sure that that is the right guy or lady for you before you decide to take the vows. The only way to be sure would be to life with her or her for a period of time. People usually say that one’s true character will only be revealed at one’s home. By cohabiting, you will get to know if your partner is someone who knows how to do the house errands or someone who has never lifted a finger. You will also get to live the life of a married couple with no strings attached. At the end of the day, you realise that both of you are not made for each other, it’s much easier to part.
However, my stand for not cohabiting for more than 3 years is because after that there should be a sense of commitment. If you decide that your cohabiting partner is the partner you’ve been looking for then I feel that they should take the vow and to officially (and legally) get married. Getting married is definitely another level up in the relationship. Having children and still cohabiting is a no-no because once there is a kid, both party should commit straight away and to take up the role of bring the kid up.
What are yours?
signing off
